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THE FOUNDATION OF ANY RELATIONSHIP

Hello people, how are you doing today?

Was thinking about writing on relationships and I thought it would be terrible to talk about relationships without addressing the bedrock of relationships:

YOU!!!

Most often we get caught up in building our relationships with others that we forget to build relationship with self. The relationship you have with yourself is the foundation of any kind of relationship with anyone else. You cannot totally love and accept someone if you do not love and accept yourself first.  You cannot have a good relationship with people if you do not have a good relationship with yourself first.

HOW DO YOU BUILD A SOLID REALATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF?

The beautiful thing about any kind of relationship is that, it is built and developed constantly. The quality of your foundation determines if it will collapse or stand, how long it will stand and what kind of building you’ll have (If it will be a bungalow, storey building, sky scraper, etc.). To improve your relationship with yourself, do the following:

  • Make a decision to have a strong relationship with yourself.  Every advancement in every field of life starts with a decision. Actions and decisions, no matter how seemingly insignificant strengthen or break relationships.
  • Be determined. Have a strong will and stick to that decision.
  • Write down your flaws and strengths
  • Focus on your strengths. This will help you see the good in yourself and help your esteem.
  • Bear in mind that everyone else has flaws and weaknesses. Stop beating yourself up about yours. Quit being too hard on yourself. The first step to solving a problem is, identifying that problem. You know your flaws and that puts you a step closer to your solution.
  • Convert your weaknesses into areas of development until they transform into strengths. We are humans, born in imperfection with imperfections but this doesn’t limit us. Strife for perfection. Don’t get comfortable with your weaknesses.  When measured on the perfection bar, ensure you are closer to perfection than imperfection.
  • Remember that Rome was not built in a day, nothing good comes easy. The metamorphosis may be slow but the outcome will eventually be beautiful. The butterfly never starts life as a butterfly, it passes through many preparatory and stages and eventually comes out beautiful

To be continued…

Practice makes perfect and assures improvement. Practice the following and watch your relationship with yourself and others take a new dimension.

Photo credits: David Adelakun (Taiwo Adelakun Photography)

Model: Ojiyovbi Ebasa

Love, 

Einsteinette.

Value Orientation 2

If you missed the first part of this click VALUE Orientation . Enjoy reading…

…He said ‘I want a mine of diamonds’ and he lay awake all night.

Early the next morning he sought the priest. The priest always gets crossed when awakened early in the morning. Ali was too curious to care, he shook the priest out of his dreams  and said to him

‘Will you tell me where I can find diamonds?’

‘Diamonds! What do you want diamonds for?

‘Why? I wish to be immensely rich’

‘Well, then, go and find them and then you can have them’

‘But I don’t know where to go’

‘Well, if you find a river that runs through white sand, between high mountains in those white sands you will always find diamonds. I don’t believe there’s any such river’

‘Of course there are plenty of them across the globe. All I have to do is go and find them and have them, I will go’ Ali concluded.

 

He sold his 3 farms, collected the money and left his family under the care of a neighbor and he went in search of the diamonds, but never found anything. He came to Palestine, then wandered on into Europe, and at last when his money was spent and he was in rags, wretchedness, and poverty, he stood on the shore of that bay at Barcelona, in Spain when one day a tidal wave came rolling in between the Pillars of Hercules and the poor, afflicted, suffering, dying man could not resist the temptation to cast himself in the incoming tide and sank beneath its foaming crest never to rise in this life again.

The man who purchased Ali’s barren farm and house, went to the farm one day and tried to make ridges, as he dug, his hoe struck a stone. Ali’s successor noticed a curious flash of light from the white sands of the stream. He pulled out a stone having an eye of light reflecting all the hues of the rainbow. He took the pebble into the house and put it on the mantel piece and forgot all about it.

A few days later the priest came and visited Ali’s successor, and the moment he opened that drawing room door he saw a flash of light and, he rushed to it and shouted ‘has Ali returned? Here is a diamond!!!’

‘Oh no, Ali has not returned and that is not a diamond. That is nothing but a stone I found right here in our own garden.’

‘But’, said the priest, ‘I tell you I know a diamond when I see it. I know positively that this is a diamond’

They rushed to the stream in that old barren farm and found a shack buried there and Ali’s successor became immensely rich and influential from the sales of diamond.

The points to derive will be stated next week.

Love,

Einsteinette.