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NOVEMBER: THE SWEET TOOTH

This month has been very adventurous… I’ve decided to stop denying the truth. As tiny and petite as I am, I’m a foodie and I love junks too. My mouth waters when I see sweet things. I crave them but I try to be careful. No one wants diabetes plus I heard too much sugar can reduce a man’s sexual activity. Don’t join me oh… my own body is different. READ MORE

THE FOUNDATION OF ANY RELATIONSHIP 2

Hi beautiful people, its another weekend. Thank God its friday. We will continue our discussion on helpful tips to improve relationships. If you missed the first part click THE FOUNDATION OF ANY RELATIONSHIP

To harness the be best out of any relationship and to build solid relationships with our family, friends, lovers etc. you have to build yourself first.

  • Be consistent. Some weaknesses are born out of bad habits. Letting go of bad habits take consistency and strong will. No habit is innate (inborn). Every habit was picked up in one way or the other. We are all responsible for our habits whether good or bad. Constant repetition births a habit. Bad habits are easy to develop but difficult to live with. Practice good habits. We do not need miracles we need better habits.
  • Write down your dreams and Goals. This gives you a sense of direction and inspires you. It gives you a reason for constant communion with self. If you do not know where you are going, you will be unable to get there.
  • Define yourself and standards. Know what you should and shouldn’t do. Where to be found and where not to be found, the kind of friends to keep etc. if you lack standards (S.I units), no one will place a value on you or identify your placement. You’ll be just another floating number. A very random one.
  • Understand your personality and let it shine through. Your personality is a distinguishing factor that is unique to you alone.
  • Be confident in yourself. Trust yourself and believe in yourself. Trust strengthens marriages, friendships, etc. and will definitely strengthen self love.
  • Never let people define or discourage you. No matter what you do people will always criticize. Accept good criticism and discard the chaff. Live for yourself and not for people. Life is too short to waste trying to please people. See gossips as jobless but necessary publicist with the duty of increasing the world’s knowledge of you.
  • Have positive dialogue with yourself. Think positive thoughts. You are who you think you are. Counter and dispel negative thinking. You will never rise above the image you have of yourself.
  • Don’t let your pasts or mistakes define you. Learn from your mistakes and past experiences, don’t wallow in self pity or hide in its shadow. Your mistakes should strengthen your innovative capacity. Think up new ways of doing things.  Your pasts should motivate and challenge you. Be better so you can save people the stress of making the same mistakes you’ve made. Inspire someone to be a success with your success with your success story.
  • Speak to your hearing. When you speak, hear and believe something, you unconsciously walk and work towards it. The more you hear and say a thing, the easier it is to believe and embody it. Speak words to strengthen yourself.
  • Eliminate atelophobia. Atelophobia is the fear of not being good enough or imperfection or  an extreme fear of failing to achieve perfection. ELIMINATE IT!!!
  • Complement yourself and acknowledge yourself when you do something good.
  • Take yourself out on a treat.

Most importantly, I THINK YOU ARE AWESOME, DON’T FORGET THAT!!!

Practice the following and watch the quality of your relationships elevate. Have an awesome weekend.

Photo credits: David Adelakun (Taiwo Adelakun Photography)

Model: Ojiyovbi Ebasa

Love,

Einsteinette.

THE FOUNDATION OF ANY RELATIONSHIP

Hello people, how are you doing today?

Was thinking about writing on relationships and I thought it would be terrible to talk about relationships without addressing the bedrock of relationships:

YOU!!!

Most often we get caught up in building our relationships with others that we forget to build relationship with self. The relationship you have with yourself is the foundation of any kind of relationship with anyone else. You cannot totally love and accept someone if you do not love and accept yourself first.  You cannot have a good relationship with people if you do not have a good relationship with yourself first.

HOW DO YOU BUILD A SOLID REALATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF?

The beautiful thing about any kind of relationship is that, it is built and developed constantly. The quality of your foundation determines if it will collapse or stand, how long it will stand and what kind of building you’ll have (If it will be a bungalow, storey building, sky scraper, etc.). To improve your relationship with yourself, do the following:

  • Make a decision to have a strong relationship with yourself.  Every advancement in every field of life starts with a decision. Actions and decisions, no matter how seemingly insignificant strengthen or break relationships.
  • Be determined. Have a strong will and stick to that decision.
  • Write down your flaws and strengths
  • Focus on your strengths. This will help you see the good in yourself and help your esteem.
  • Bear in mind that everyone else has flaws and weaknesses. Stop beating yourself up about yours. Quit being too hard on yourself. The first step to solving a problem is, identifying that problem. You know your flaws and that puts you a step closer to your solution.
  • Convert your weaknesses into areas of development until they transform into strengths. We are humans, born in imperfection with imperfections but this doesn’t limit us. Strife for perfection. Don’t get comfortable with your weaknesses.  When measured on the perfection bar, ensure you are closer to perfection than imperfection.
  • Remember that Rome was not built in a day, nothing good comes easy. The metamorphosis may be slow but the outcome will eventually be beautiful. The butterfly never starts life as a butterfly, it passes through many preparatory and stages and eventually comes out beautiful

To be continued…

Practice makes perfect and assures improvement. Practice the following and watch your relationship with yourself and others take a new dimension.

Photo credits: David Adelakun (Taiwo Adelakun Photography)

Model: Ojiyovbi Ebasa

Love, 

Einsteinette.

10 PILLARS TO BUILD FROM VALUE Orientation

Hi, I know you’ve missed me, well, I’m back and I hope nothing takes me away again. Today, we will be discussing the preceding posts on value orientation (if you have not read it, click VALUE ORIENTATION, (Read it now!!! else you will feel lost ). There are salient points in the story that I believe would be relevant to you and these points are important because they will support and strengthen you in your self development journey and the rate of improvement will alarm you.

The ten pillars are:

  1. Be eager to learn and engage in further research. Never feed on incomplete information or haphazard information. Get your facts right. Further and recent knowledge/information is priceless.
  2. Find S2: When you identify a problem, find the source and solution. Be a creative solution provider not a professional complaint director.
  3. Be well equipped before undertaking any task. It puts you far ahead. Not everyone has to start from scratch. With information you can start from the middle to the top.
  4. Never be in a hurry to make money. Nothing good comes easy. Be patient and work for every penny you earn directly or indirectly, be sure you deserve it. Fast money evaporates quickly. Build lasting empires and assets.
  5. Decisions are integral in defining and shaping your life and its eventual outcome. Never be in a hurry to make decisions. Take out time to ponder, weigh your options and come up with a decision even if it is a risk-taking decision.
  6. Never base your decisions on emotions. Emotions cloud judgments. Never make a decision under pressure (except you have to), stress, extreme excitement, depression, anger etc. because you will most likely make a bad decision.
  7. Set out an accurate plan, with clear goals and strategies on how to execute a task before undertaking the task.
  8. Ignorance is much more expensive than the price of education. If you do not know the value of a thing, the worth and potential of that thing will remain vague to you and might hinder your success or advancement. Knowledge of value guarantees advancement.
  9. Be aware of and familiar with the potential and treasures in your vicinity before embarking on an ultimate treasure search in a strange land. A goat at hand is better than a lion in the forest
  10. Never give up!!! Suicide is never a solution. Face your challenges. Don’t run away from them. People with the best success stories had terrible experiences and challenges that toughened them up and prepared them for the positions they are now. e.g Oprah Winfrey

If there are other lessons you learnt from the article, Value Orientation, kindly share by commenting. Add to someone’s life and inspire a friend today by sharing this post. If you haven’t read value orientation, click here. Have a nice weekend.

Love,

Einsteinette.

VALUE Orientation

Ali owned three very large farms. He was a rich and contented man. He had three kids, two sons and a daughter. His wife died giving birth to their daughter. He loved his kids and provided as much as he could for them. All his farmlands produced bountiful yields except one. That particular farm never yielded anything not even a leaf. It was behind his house and the biggest farmland he had. It amazed him because it was close to a stream.

One day he sat outside his house enjoying the fresh air, trying to decide what to do with his barren and infertile land, when his friend, an ancient Buddhist priest, one of the wise men of the east walked into the compound to see him. Ali welcomed him and they talked about lots of things over wine. The wise man told the old farmer a story of how this world was once a mere bank of fog, and the almighty thrust His finger around, increasing the speed until at last He whirled this bank of fog into a solid ball of fire. It went rolling through the universe, burning its way through other banks of fog, and condensed the moisture without, until it fell in floods of rain upon its hot surface, and cooled the outward crust. Then the internal fires bursting outward through the crust threw up the mountains and hills, the valleys, the plains and prairies of this wonderful world of ours. If this internal molten mass came bursting outward and cooled very quickly it became granite, less quickly copper, less quickly silver, less quickly gold, and after gold, diamonds were made.

The old priest told him that ‘A diamond is a congealed drop of sunlight.’ Now they say that is literally true, that a diamond is an actual deposit of carbon from the sun. The old priest told Ali that if he had one diamond the size of this thumb he could purchase the county, and if he had a mine of diamonds he could place his children thrones through the influence of their great wealth.

Ali heard all about diamonds, how much they worth and went to bed that night discontented with his current state and thirsty for diamonds. He said, ‘I want a mine of diamonds,’ and he… (To be Continued)

Love,
Einsteinette.