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Please #SAVEOYAYI from the jaws of breast cancer

Breast cancer is a terrible thing. Cancer generally is. People die of cancer everyday. Some people are subjected to living in fear, unsure of what would happen the next minute. We all have problems but no one prays for cancer to be one of them. Flipping through my TL I saw this and it hurt me. The story got to me because I had just seen a play with people who had personal experiences in the cancer battle, directly or indirectly. I heard a guy lament about his mother’s cancer ordeal. I heard another lament about her aunty’s ordeal. The trauma of losing one breast. Did you know even men can have breast cancer, although it’s rare. Hearing people’s pain, stories and experiences made me realize how real cancer is. You may never understand till it happens to you. @projectpinkblue has ceaselessly tweeted day and night soliciting for help for Miss Comfort Oyayi. I read about her cancer story on indiegogo.

In the post, she said:

I’m Miss Comfort Oyayi Daniel.
Save Oyayi

You never really know the value of health till you are sick. I am a woman with a dream to become a journalist and this led me to pursue a degree in mass communication. My zeal and passion for the things I do attracted admirations from people around me who were greatly encouraged.

I kept setting goals and doing my best to build a future not just for myself but also for a better society. Things seemed to be working out well till when I was diagnosed of Breast Cancer (invasive ductal CA of the left breast, ER/PR negative, HER 2 neu positive: Stage 2) at Asokoro Hospital Abuja. I was told it was a malignant tumor, hence life threatening. Since June 2015 when I left the hospital after mastectomy (removal of left breast), I have not been able to go back for thechemotherapy(TCH Taxane, Carboplatin, Herceptin) regimen because I don’t have$35,966.

I struggled all through 2015 to raise the money to no avail. This is 2016 and still nothing. I don’t want it to advance to incurable cancer. I am 34 year old. I have a lot of dreams, aspirations, lives that depend on me and lives to touch. Breast Cancer cannot take all of that from me. I don’t want it to. It has taken enough. My boss fired me immediately after my diagnosis and breast removal (mastectomy). BreastCancer took my job away from me, it has chased suitors away, it has stagnated my dreams, I may never know the joy of a mother at this rate. Breast cancer has taken my left breast; I don’t want it to take my life. My confidence and life is threatened.

…but I believe there is still hope. I am broken but I haven’t given up yet. Where there is life, there is hope. Help me to save my LIFE. It’s a lot of money but your $1 can make a difference. Help me get my life back. Help me achieve my dreams. Help me!

I am Miss Comfort Oyayi Daniel, I do not want to die without living an impact on the world. I do not want to be “the lady that died of breast cancer”, I want to be a woman of impact in Africa.

Cancer affects us all directly or indirectly. Join the fight against cancer and save a beautiful soul today. It could have been any of us! No one chooses to have a MEDICAL condition that is beyond his/her control.

Let’s wipe the tears in my eyes!

Only you can help me prevent the cancer from spreading to other vital organs of my body!Please, Save Oyayi; Contribute to my Chemotherapy. #SaveOyayi”

Spending money comes easily to a lot of people. We spend and may not be able to track what and where we spent the money but this is different. This is someone fighting a life and death situation. Please don’t just look away. I naturally would not post this but I have been heavy-hearted. I could almost not sleep thinking about this woman. Breast cancer was not her fault. She has no husband or child yet. The career she is trying to build has been yanked away from her. The cancer is destroying her life. Please let’s help her get chemotherapy. We do not want the cancer spreading to other parts of her body. Please help her.

You can donate here or you can  pay directly to National Hospital Abuja or pay to Account Name: Health & Psychological Trust Centre SaveOyayi Account No: 6060163812 Bank: Fidelity Bank Plc. For inquiries email or tweet @projectpinkblue

Please visit a doctor today and get yourself examined. The best way to tackle cancer is early detection. No one prays to have it but prevention is better than cure.


Donate one naira, one thousand naira, anything you have. What seems small to you, may be big to another. If you cannot donate, share a picture, tweet, this post, the video, your voice, anything but just don’t do nothing. This affects us all, directly or indirectly. Be kind to a stranger.

A deed has a ripple effect that always comes back to you, good or bad. Please help #SaveOyayi.




How to Get Through a Marriage Crisis

Have you ever made up your mind to go on a walk and enjoy the bright day and fresh air and then suddenly, the clouds just get thick and then it starts raining, sometimes, it doesn’t even get thick at all, it just starts raining. Marriage can be like this, dating too. It starts beautiful and at some point gets ugly. Good news is that you can make it all beautiful again. Every relationship has its ups and downs, and just because you’re not acting like a couple of love birds doesn’t mean you’re going through a marriage crisis. So how do you know if you’re going through a particularly hard moment? There are certain signs you should keep an eye out for. Once you’ve ascertained that you are experiencing a crisis in your marriage, don’t run too quickly to the divorce option.




  • Be conscious of timing, location and approach – Finding the right place and situation to talk about your worries with your husband/wife is essential. Nagging about problems after a long and stressful work day is not productive or wise because you both are tired and may not in the best of moods.
  • Keep it positive – Laugh and the world will laugh with you, cry and you’ll cry alone. Stay positive, don’t over think or assume and never let yourself overload the situation with negative vibes and a pessimistic attitude, as it won’t help. Indeed, the best way to see the bright side is to look at it. Rather than focusing on everything that’s wrong in the relationship think of all the great things that you might have forgotten.
  • Be generous and selfless – Moments of crises are moments when extra effort is required and marriage crisis is no different. So prepare to undergo a period during which you will have to give more than you normally do, whether that’s love, attention, space or time. Patience is one of the best allies to fight this battle against whatever problem your marriage is facing.
  • Listen, understand and avoid assumptions – Don’t close yourself. Don’t rush to conclusions or reject your spouse just because they’re rejecting you. If they’ve told you they’re unsure whether they want to keep being with you or not, look for reasons, listen to them and try to put yourself in their shoes. In a word, be understanding and objective, which doesn’t mean endure everything, but it’s the best way to analyze the problem and find solutions. The worst thing you can do is to raise a wall. If speaking is a problem, a good idea is to both make a list of the things you don’t like about the other’s behavior and take turns to read your thoughts on it.
  • Don’t get too needy – Show them that you are the same independent man/woman you were at the beginning of your relationship and that this is something that will never change. This will take some pressure off your spouse shoulders and will give them some space in order to think freely
  • Relight the fire – Try to spice up your routine as much as you can. Pretend you are dating again. It will be fun and it will make you remember why you liked each other in the first place. Another great idea to relight the fire is to rent a holiday home away from the everyday routine and also to have some time together to help remind each other why you decided to tie the knot. Quiet and snugly situations are always the best way to face problems and find solutions.


Sometimes the origin of the problem might be the foundation. Find out THE FOUNDATION OF ANY RELATIONSHIP 1 & 2.


If the previous advice fails the best thing to do is to seek a marriage counselor. Keep in mind that some relationship problems are difficult to be solved, especially those that involve physical and/or verbal violence or infidelity, though this doesn’t mean that all is lost. Hard work, love, respect, commitment, understanding and many more are antidotes to relationship crisis.




If you enjoyed this, then you might enjoy other write ups by Sade Adebayo.

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Guest writer,

Sade Adebayo.