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…My dad lost interest in his marriage to Maureen 4 years later and started seeking another divorce and appealed that the child should be sent to Susanne, my mum’s best friend as my mother wasn’t in her right mental state of mind.

Susanne was a widow and had just lost her only child. The only reason she could still face the world and smile was gone. She was sad and bitter but my dad was there for her. My mum wasn’t there for her at all she did not understand why but she later found out about my mum’s mental state. The bitterness stung her deeply.  She was bitter that my mum wasn’t really there for her before all of these happened. It hurt her but I was her child in a way and it was her duty to take care of me. She saw it as God’s compensation for her lost daughter. She took care of me for 12 years.

My dad and Lauryn made up but he died a year after, willing all his assets to me. He funded my education, my feeding, everything while he was alive and paid Susanne to care for me and still left money to continue paying for my needs in the future after his death . We took out of it to pay my wedding planner. What can I say? He is a rich dude.  Lauryn came back searching for me immediately she was released  from asylum.  Maureen couldn’t bear a child and she came back searching for me. My mum Susanne and I were planning my wedding last year when my Lauryn came in and I remembered her face, her songs, her love… I knew her, I had missed her, I was moved to tears but then Susanne was still my mum and Maureen came that same month to apologize…

It’s the 15th of February, 2014, 4:00 am to be precise they’ll be here in 2 hours to dress me up for the wedding. Who should I call mum? Who should I let hand me over to my husband to be? Who would I introduce my kids to as their grandmother?

My Biological mum, the egg donor and my father’s ex wife and the woman that looked out for me for 4 years.  – Maureen,


My Legal mum , my father’s first wife, who paid for all the processes and initiate the idea of my conception, took care of me through the formative parts of my life, went crazy when she lost me, and lost her marriage for me.   – Lauryn


My surrogate mum, my mother’s best friend, a widow, the woman that carried me in her womb, breast fed me and still nurtured me for 12years – Susanne

Help me…

If you were me, who would you choose?

Who deserves to be adorned with the word mother?

Was it morally right or wrong?

Was Lauryn wrong for wanting a child?

Was it wrong for my dad to wanCategoriest to feel the love he missed and could get somewhere else?

Was it wrong that Maureen needed money for her student loans to be settled and she had to donate eggs to the hospital for women like Lauryn who could not conceive?

Was it wrong for Susanne to want to help her best friend, fill the void she felt after losing her child?, was it wrong to collect money for her “motherly services”?

Who was at fault?

I do not have answers to any of these questions. I’m hoping that you do.

The best answer would be the perfect ending to this story.