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Hello people, how are you doing today?

Was thinking about writing on relationships and I thought it would be terrible to talk about relationships without addressing the bedrock of relationships:


Most often we get caught up in building our relationships with others that we forget to build relationship with self. The relationship you have with yourself is the foundation of any kind of relationship with anyone else. You cannot totally love and accept someone if you do not love and accept yourself first.  You cannot have a good relationship with people if you do not have a good relationship with yourself first.


The beautiful thing about any kind of relationship is that, it is built and developed constantly. The quality of your foundation determines if it will collapse or stand, how long it will stand and what kind of building you’ll have (If it will be a bungalow, storey building, sky scraper, etc.). To improve your relationship with yourself, do the following:

  • Make a decision to have a strong relationship with yourself.  Every advancement in every field of life starts with a decision. Actions and decisions, no matter how seemingly insignificant strengthen or break relationships.
  • Be determined. Have a strong will and stick to that decision.
  • Write down your flaws and strengths
  • Focus on your strengths. This will help you see the good in yourself and help your esteem.
  • Bear in mind that everyone else has flaws and weaknesses. Stop beating yourself up about yours. Quit being too hard on yourself. The first step to solving a problem is, identifying that problem. You know your flaws and that puts you a step closer to your solution.
  • Convert your weaknesses into areas of development until they transform into strengths. We are humans, born in imperfection with imperfections but this doesn’t limit us. Strife for perfection. Don’t get comfortable with your weaknesses.  When measured on the perfection bar, ensure you are closer to perfection than imperfection.
  • Remember that Rome was not built in a day, nothing good comes easy. The metamorphosis may be slow but the outcome will eventually be beautiful. The butterfly never starts life as a butterfly, it passes through many preparatory and stages and eventually comes out beautiful

To be continued…

Practice makes perfect and assures improvement. Practice the following and watch your relationship with yourself and others take a new dimension.

Photo credits: David Adelakun (Taiwo Adelakun Photography)

Model: Ojiyovbi Ebasa



Be A Step Ahead And Get That Job

Everyone in Nigeria seems to be complaining about the “availability of jobs” situation in Nigeria. They unintentionally scare the undergraduate and the school leavers keep blaming the government. Do you know in the midst of unemployment rate in Nigeria, you could get a job? Yes you can! It is simple

First, your mindset has to believe that you can get the job and you deserve it. You have to convince yourself that the unemployment situation cannot affect you. You are above it. Positive thinking works in reality. When you can trick your mind to believe a thing, it manifests in reality because you unconsciously work towards it.

Be different: you don’t expect to do things the way every other person is doing it and expect a different result. You’ll be rejected like every other person if you do what every other person is doing. Have a unique characteristic that you know no one else or very few people will have. It is this characteristics that set you apart. Always let your personality shine through.

Develop Yourself: make effort to constantly develop yourself. Every day let there be an advancement in your life. The world is constantly evolving you have to develop with it. Someone with typewriting knowledge is hardly sort for compared to someone who has computer knowledge.

Be confident: know what you have. Don’t go for that interview begging. You have something to offer and you’ll be paid for it, let the confidence be seen. Don’t be proud in an attempt to show confidence.

The God Factor: No matter what you believe in always remember that you can’t do it by your strength only. Pray and ask God to go with you. If you don’t get that job then God has a better plan for you
Try these and see what happens next.