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Was never the superstitious type,
Never placed myself with luck either,
It never decided my actions I decided it’s,
Always knew there was something beyond normal about me,
Found a group of misfits so I feathered up and joined the flock,
Now am stumping thoughts bouncing off ideas and dreams of being great,
Is it all fate or just an imaginarium built by my own words?
Is it possible to breathe life into my thoughts and make them live?
A battle with the skeletons in my closet,
Death met them with the sword,
Glance at the reality of the wicked dreams of my phantom,
Crooked smiles, hand placed on my heart while I sing my anthem,
Only the clouds can see the buried lies I concealed in the coffin,
The blurred lines paving ways for the truth in her courage,
A harmony of confusion synchronizing the evil lurking,
A feast for bandits searching for the lost scrolls of my tainted ways,
Stopped talking and started acting based on the visions of my beautiful fantasy,
Managed by the character I created solely for my reality,
Now I stare at my empire as the ghost of my failure packs his luggage to leave,
Frightened by the smirk on the faces of my achievement,
Threatened by the impenetrable armor of their immortality,
Farewell my ghost companion,
Take this epistle, it is a simple account of how I positioned my ladder to climb from tail to head,
And decide your fate.

I’m a winner.

The flip side is my tale of my success and how I defeated my fears and failure and sent them parking into oblivion.


Tafeeda and Einsteinette.

Motion and Life

We were taught newton’s laws of motion and we studied them because we had to pass our exams but when you take a deeper look at it, you’d realize that they are simple laws of life. Your will power, effort and thought quality come together to form the force required to push or redirect you in life.

The more the mass of your dreams or ambition, the more force you need to guarantee its acceleration. Things don’t just happen, you make them happen. Consistency is key in success. When you stop applying force to your dreams, they start to decelerate at an exponential rate. You can defy gravity if the force you apply is strong enough to push it out of earth (beyond the imaginations of people).

What drives you?

What is your force?

I hate stagnation, this hate for stagnation and being average pushes me.

If you need a succinct reminder about this post, take this picture.



Keep Moving.

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Procrastination involves one individual but African time involves the society.

I was invited for a wedding scheduled for 9am and proposed to end 11am before proceeding for the reception which was scheduled for 12noon. According to the order of events, we were expecting to shut-down by 3pm. I was at the wedding by 8:50am and the hall was extremely scanty. The bride procession did not start till 10:30am (30minutes to the “supposed closing time”) because they were waiting for the hall to get full before starting. The reception started by 2:45 and the wedding ended around 6 o’clock. Attendees kept murmuring

“I knew they would not start by 9.”

“Thank God we came by 10, we were even early, if we came by 9 we’d have just sat down waiting till God knows when.”

“I told you nobody will come by 9”

All sorts of accusations and comments kept flying around. Funnily, 80% of the population was busy waiting for the other set of people to converge before coming and in the end no one came on time. This same attitude has been directed towards seminars, trainings, meetings and events generally. We labeled it African Time.

 African time is a colloquial term used to describe a perceived cultural tendency. It is a relaxed attitude towards time. It is worse than procrastination because procrastination involves just an individual but African time involves the society. It has become a culture, a way of life. It is used in negative sense about tardiness in appointment, meetings and events.

It is a disguised form of procrastination because events are supposed to commence at a particular time but they are deferred to a later time because the invitees and participants have decided to come late.

Most Africans do not have value for time, they do things at their own time and this is what has contributed to the stagnation of this blessed continent, Africa. An event with almost a thousand people invited is due to commence at 10a.m., 900 people will remain where they are and say ‘people will not be there yet, they will start by 11:30’. What is the possibility of starting without your presence if 900 people are busy bending time and doing nothing? The host will be disappointed and have no choice than to start the ceremony later than the time planned and  those that even came early will look down on the host and start practicing the African time mentality because you forced them to. The most annoying part of the whole situation is that when you ask the guest their reason for coming late, no sensible answer is given they just smile, shrug and say ‘African time’. If everyone decides to keep to African time who will be present at any event on time? It is a very bad trend that is slowing down the development of Africa.

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When you do things late, you either loose an opportunity or things slow down for you. Effective time managers and successful people are synonymous for keeping to time. An appointment must be fixed before a scheduled visit and once the time is placed, it has to be that time, else you are considered unserious. It is because of this good time mentality many western countries and many business owners have been able to attain a point of development.

African time’ succeeds in degrading our integrity. If a respected man has an appointment scheduled by 3p.m, gets there by 3:10p.m without a good reason for his delay or without calling, emailing or sending a message to the person he has the appointment with, it will go a long way to prove that he is unserious and he lacks integrity. If he has a genuine reason he will call the person he has the appointment with to inform him, that way, he will be respected and taken seriously.  Good time management goes a long way to boost and maintain your integrity and the level of respect accorded to you.

One main reason for stunted growth in African countries today is their nonchalant attitude towards time. Robert Updegraft said ‘To get all there is about living, we must stop and have a sip of life but never losing our senses of the enormous value of every minute’.

African time must be destroyed when there is strict punctuality syndrome in all aspect of life. It can be stopped by ‘YOU’ being noted for your punctuality and integrity. I went for a social gathering and I was surprised that everyone came before or on time or slightly after the event started and then the person beside me said ‘this man does not joke with time, he is a very punctual person too. His 9 o’clock is 9 o’clock’ and then I realized that your punctuality affects others too. At that gathering I learnt that if you have respect for your time and people’s time, they’ll reciprocate the respect. The problems of punctuality has become so bad that lateness is now the order of the day and it is now accepted in any function and people quickly seek shelter under ‘African time’.

We must all make efforts to correct this trend and social vice that is destroying our society. We must inculcate the virtue of punctuality. We must live by example so that our kids, friends and people close to us can watch us, take after us and completely stop the chain of ‘African time’.

Your punctuality can go a long way to affect the lives of others and provoke a change in their bad habits. We must re-brand ourselves towards respecting time and keeping appointments.




I read a book recently and I thought I should share some thoughts with you. I contained a great secret of life.

You’ve probably been sitting there wondering, “what is the secret?” I’ll tell you how I have to understand it. We all work with one infinite power. we all guide ourselves by exactly the same laws. The natural laws of the universe are so precise that we don’t even have any difficulty  building spaceships, we can send people to the moon and we can time landing with the precision of a fraction of a second.

Wherever you are- India, Australia, New Zealand, Stockholm, London, Toronto, Montreal, New York, or Nigeria- we’re all working with one power. One law. It’s attraction!!! (Bob Proctor)

The Secret is the law of attraction!

Everything that’s coming to your life you are attracting into your life. And it’s attracted by virtue of the images you’re holding in your mind. It’s what you’re thinking. Whatever is going on in your mind, you are attracting to you.

Every thought of yours is a real thing- A FORCE (Prentice Mulford)

All I’m saying is the more you think about that thing, the more you attract it to yourself, positive or negative. Think positive thoughts and positive things and people will naturally get magnetized to you. Dream big dreams and bask in the thoughts of it. You’d feel more inclined to work towards them and the people you need for it’s accomplishment would come naturally.




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“If you think you’re too small to make an impact, spend the night in a room with one mosquito”

I’d leave your mind to wander deep into the jungle of possibilities, considering what this mosquito will do to you and how much impact it’ll make on your body, your ears and your day. It is even likely that you’ll leave the whole room for the mosquito.

Hold this thought…

Antique would be separated into 3 parts that’ll come together to make sense soon



It’s amazing the wisdom on trail blazing and leadership that you could get from an ant. The ant is tiny but for some reason they are blessed to lift objects twice their weight. They are very selfless creatures. They think of the good of the whole colony not just themselves. This goes a long way to say that to be a successful leader you have to think of others first. In satisfying the needs of others you unconsciously tremendously meet your own needs. Ants have perfect understanding of the benefit of team spirit. The best leaders have effective management skills, to manage their team and produce maximum result. They plan ahead and are capable of turning a desert into a city. They create a nation out of nothing and build empires out of emptiness. They constantly research and explore, and always have alternate plans. They have flaws but have characteristics that a leader/trailblazer could imbibe to make a worldwide statement.


Tick says the clock tick tick all you have to do, do it quick.

Leadership and Impact can be time bound. To be a trailblazer you have to learn to do things at the right time. You can’t aim to be the richest young man in Africa at the age of 50. You can’t decide to relax on any idea you have because someone else might have the exact same idea and if he executes his first, he steals your shine as the pioneer. As a leader you have to understand that actions are time bound and take steps at the right time for appropriate impact.


So finally we are released into the world as new generation leaders, but where do we get to manifest our fresh leadership skills and impact our country or even the world with old people set as leaders everywhere. When you keep doing the same thing the same way, you experience stagnation and deterioration in quality. Young minds and leaders have to eject the old generation to trigger the pouring of new wine to new wine skins. They tell the youth that they are the leaders of tomorrow but tomorrow comes and the youth still do not have the opportunity to lead. The change we want to see is placed in our hands; we just have to effect it. Leadership and impact require fresh ideas or execution of old ideas in new patterns. And when you get old, pass the baton on. If you are scared to pass it on it means you did not replicate and build your leadership virtues in anyone, therefore you have failed as a leader.

There are 3 major lessons.

  • Develop yourself first and then develop a team that shares the same passion with you in achieving your goals
  • If things are not done at the right time, the essence will be lost. Be time conscious in strategic planning and execution
  • Don’t let the old people take over their generation and your generation too. Be the change you want to see.

Start by doing something, make the little impact you can in the place you find yourself but don’t get to comfortable with that position. Keep fighting your way to the top and expand your sphere of influence. The little impact at the bottom will serve as pillars when you eventually get to the top. Don’t die with your wealth of potential. Die spent.



Virginity Is Overrated: Part II by Okechukwu Ofili

I came across this post and I urge you to read it with an open mind. It is not judgmental, it is an eyeopener by Okechukwu Ofili.


So a few days ago, I wrote an article titled Virginity Is Overrated and boy did I get criticized for that article!

People told me that they will not read my blog again, some said that I was promoting promiscuity and many said they were disappointed that I would use my platform to bash good moral values. So after much pressure … I have decided to apologize for …. absolutely nothing … okay maybe I could have written the article a bit better and not been so harsh on virgins … maybe …

But I still feel that virginity in Nigeria is a largely overrated and feminist phenomenon and it does more harm than good for our country. One of my most salient issues (out of many) with virgin worship is that it gives parents an excuse not to talk about sex.

And when you don’t talk about sex you create an atmosphere of dangerous secrecy! I call it dangerous because…
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Hope you enjoyed it.