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Was thinking about writing on relationships and I thought it would be terrible to talk about relationships without addressing the bedrock of relationships:


Most often we get caught up in building our relationships with others that we forget to build relationship with self. The relationship you have with yourself is the foundation of any kind of relationship with anyone else. You cannot totally love and accept someone if you do not love and accept yourself first.  You cannot have a good relationship with people if you do not have a good relationship with yourself first.


The beautiful thing about any kind of relationship is that, it is built and developed constantly. The quality of your foundation determines if it will collapse or stand, how long it will stand and what kind of building you’ll have (If it will be a bungalow, storey building, sky scraper, etc.). To improve your relationship with yourself, do the following:

  • Make a decision to have a strong relationship with yourself.  Every advancement in every field of life starts with a decision. Actions and decisions, no matter how seemingly insignificant strengthen or break relationships.
  • Be determined. Have a strong will and stick to that decision.
  • Write down your flaws and strengths
  • Focus on your strengths. This will help you see the good in yourself and help your esteem.
  • Bear in mind that everyone else has flaws and weaknesses. Stop beating yourself up about yours. Quit being too hard on yourself. The first step to solving a problem is, identifying that problem. You know your flaws and that puts you a step closer to your solution.
  • Convert your weaknesses into areas of development until they transform into strengths. We are humans, born in imperfection with imperfections but this doesn’t limit us. Strife for perfection. Don’t get comfortable with your weaknesses.  When measured on the perfection bar, ensure you are closer to perfection than imperfection.
  • Remember that Rome was not built in a day, nothing good comes easy. The metamorphosis may be slow but the outcome will eventually be beautiful. The butterfly never starts life as a butterfly, it passes through many preparatory and stages and eventually comes out beautiful

To be continued…

Practice makes perfect and assures improvement. Practice the following and watch your relationship with yourself and others take a new dimension.

Photo credits: David Adelakun (Taiwo Adelakun Photography)

Model: Ojiyovbi Ebasa




Hi, I know you’ve missed me, well, I’m back and I hope nothing takes me away again. Today, we will be discussing the preceding posts on value orientation (if you have not read it, click VALUE ORIENTATION, (Read it now!!! else you will feel lost ). There are salient points in the story that I believe would be relevant to you and these points are important because they will support and strengthen you in your self development journey and the rate of improvement will alarm you.

The ten pillars are:

  1. Be eager to learn and engage in further research. Never feed on incomplete information or haphazard information. Get your facts right. Further and recent knowledge/information is priceless.
  2. Find S2: When you identify a problem, find the source and solution. Be a creative solution provider not a professional complaint director.
  3. Be well equipped before undertaking any task. It puts you far ahead. Not everyone has to start from scratch. With information you can start from the middle to the top.
  4. Never be in a hurry to make money. Nothing good comes easy. Be patient and work for every penny you earn directly or indirectly, be sure you deserve it. Fast money evaporates quickly. Build lasting empires and assets.
  5. Decisions are integral in defining and shaping your life and its eventual outcome. Never be in a hurry to make decisions. Take out time to ponder, weigh your options and come up with a decision even if it is a risk-taking decision.
  6. Never base your decisions on emotions. Emotions cloud judgments. Never make a decision under pressure (except you have to), stress, extreme excitement, depression, anger etc. because you will most likely make a bad decision.
  7. Set out an accurate plan, with clear goals and strategies on how to execute a task before undertaking the task.
  8. Ignorance is much more expensive than the price of education. If you do not know the value of a thing, the worth and potential of that thing will remain vague to you and might hinder your success or advancement. Knowledge of value guarantees advancement.
  9. Be aware of and familiar with the potential and treasures in your vicinity before embarking on an ultimate treasure search in a strange land. A goat at hand is better than a lion in the forest
  10. Never give up!!! Suicide is never a solution. Face your challenges. Don’t run away from them. People with the best success stories had terrible experiences and challenges that toughened them up and prepared them for the positions they are now. e.g Oprah Winfrey

If there are other lessons you learnt from the article, Value Orientation, kindly share by commenting. Add to someone’s life and inspire a friend today by sharing this post. If you haven’t read value orientation, click here. Have a nice weekend.




Hey people, It’s a great monday evening and we end this easter celebration with a great and insightful write up by @monsieuruwem. This is our #WriteUp4TheMonth and I hope you enjoy it, feel free to share and comment.

There are numerous definitions of the word ‘truth’ and numerous perspectives regarding this word. Take a few seconds, pause everything you’re doing right now and ask yourself ‘have I been truthful to myself?’

I think where most of us get it wrong is we tend to be subjective with the ‘truth’ and alter it to suit our situation or impending decisions. The ‘Truth’ is a more comprehensive term and no matter how you may try to alter its meaning it should imply ‘accuracy and honesty’.

So then, what is my definition of the ‘truth’ – Sincerity in Character, Action and Utterance.
The knowledge of the truth defines what becomes our character, which then shows off in our actions and utterances. Even the Bible says “And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”, meaning the knowledge of the truth will eventually define us.

Our greatest problem lies in the fact that it is easier to lie to ourselves than face the truth. The truth is universal, human beings are wired to know what is right from wrong. I’m sure you’re asking yourself how is that possible? Let’s see some examples –
A baby bites her moms nipples and stares back at her mom to see her reaction, how did the baby know that biting the nipple was wrong?; a child at a tender age lies to cover up he/she breaking a plate, who told the child that breaking the plate was wrong?

Yet we have doused and killed our conscience over time because we prefer to lie to ourselves than face the truth. A girl cheats on her boyfriend because she has concluded that all men cheat which is a lie; A guy prefers to party, have ‘fun’ and ignore his books yet he knows that if he doesn’t study he’ll fail; Another person prefers to hang out with bad friends because he/she want to feel accepted when he/she knows that they will influence them into doing wrong; A husband treats his wife like trash because he’s getting attention from another woman ignoring the knowledge that his world will crumble if his wife leaves him.

This leads me to one truth that defines our existence – What you sow, you will reap or like most of us have heard, the law of Karma. Nobody can dispute that this is not an actual truth, its only the grace of God that has kept some of us from experiencing the full hammer of this law.


If only we ‘slow down’ and weigh our decisions remembering that no man is an island and that our decisions affect the people around us and most especially the people that really care for us, most of us will be happier and end up living a better life

So my question to u again is ‘Have you been truthful to yourself?
By @MonsieurUwem (Uwemakpan Uwem)
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