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It’s amazing how when a child is born, people rejoice and a ceremony is organized but not as emphasized as the burial or death of a person. I mean, even broke people go the extra mile to give “befitting burials” and spend money on all the rites that need to be fulfilled. Sometimes 3 cows would be slaughtered, new expensive clothes would be bought, food would be prepared for guests, both invited and uninvited, money would be contributed etc. In some parts of Nigeria, the inability to meet up with these financial demands may force the family members to store the body in the mortuary for months or even years before consideration of burial. Note that, there is an intense possibility that throughout his lifetime, he wore torn clothes and struggled to afford 2 square meals but in death, he is adorned with the best clothes and more money is showered on his burial than it was ever given to him when he was alive.

I listened to the interview of Derenle on The Juice and I heard him talk about how people said mean things about Goldie but when she died people had nice things to say. Things should would have been happier as a person if they were said to her when she was alive. Why make people feel terrible in their lifetime and say nice things about them when they are dead. I feel it’s hipocricy.

Not only Nigerians are guilty of this, I see foreigners reverence you more in death than in your lifetime. I have perfect examples. Leonardo DiCaprio is most likely not to win a Grammy even with all his hit movies till he probably dies, they’ll give him an Icon award… OK maybe that’s a fallacy but Bob Marley got a Grammy in death. Let’s even ignore Grammies and all. Michael Jackson was bankrupt at some point but in his death he made enough money to pay off his debt and even broke financial records that he did not break in his life time. It was as though more people knew him in his death than in his 50 years of existence.

I understand the idea of “Legends” and “Legacy” but why not give the person the chance to enjoy the fruit of their labor in their lifetime?

Maybe I do not understand it but my question is,

Are you more relevant in death than your time of existence? Are you more relevant when your process of decay is triggered as opposed to when you are walking and taking strides on earth full of life?

My friend’s dp




Hello there, Hope you are having a great weekend. I am… I’m busy being my mother’s handbag and visiting relatives. It’s not so much fun o! All this people just keep on with the “you have grown o…Blessing of yesterday”. It can be exhausting. O’ well back to the matter hand, my last article got me thinking, about the big subject RISKS! Just thought I should re-emphasize it.

If you are scared of daring the impossible then you are not ready to do the unbelievable
Everyone is trying too hard to be safe. Everyone tries to go for a safer option. Truth be told, everything in LIFE is a RISK, the only safe and sure thing is DEATH.What do I mean? We hear things like you stand a 36% chance of cancer or 50 in 1000 die in heart transplants, we forget that 100 in 100 must die, whether old, young, pretty,rich, etc we all will die. Everyone spends days of their life trying to postpone their death and elongate their lives and we all expect that playing safe is the key. People find jobs and pour their money into pension, all kinds of insurance are available today etc. Being safe is good but your ability to take risks is what makes you awesome and brings about drastic change in your life.

After the Dana Air crash, people in Nigeria have been scared of using Dana and some are afraid to fly. I check the stats and realize that you are more likely to die driving on the road, than in a plane crash. How often do you hear of plane crashes? But how often do you hear and see road accidents? We spend too much time thinking and dwelling on the 1 in 100 crashes and forget about the 99successful flights. Dana is presently the safest flight in my opinion because they were suspended and everything was put in place before they were called back. Plus they know if they crash 1 more time, their existence may remain unnoticed, they might even stop operating because people will tag them unsafe. I am simply saying that you can’t avoid the risks. Everyday you wake up, you have thousands of risks facing you. If you want to follow stats you might not get out of bed and it is a risk staying in bed and doing nothing.

The quality of life is important, don’t be scared to make big decisions, weigh the stats and be optimistic if 60 in 100 small business fail, you can be part of the 40 that succeed. To live is the rarest thing, most people just exist. Fortune favors the brave. The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die anytime. All great inventors are great because of the wise Risks they’ve taken. Don’t be foolish, you know what is wrong. Any risks that has no profit or profits evil does not pay. Do not read this and apply to negativity. This is a wake up call for people who have goals, ambitions and heart. Achieve what looks seemingly impossible. I DARE YOU!

Death is not the biggest fear we have, our biggest fear is taking the risks to be alive and express what we really are. Your quality of life is based on your choice. Don’t forget, safe is BORING, think outside the box now!!!
If you are scared of daring the impossible then you are not ready to do the unbelievable.


*clears throat*That’s all.

The Demise Of A Dear Friend

The meeting had just ended my best friend looking cute in his starched shirt and carton colored pants was sitting right beside me, I looked pretty too in my fitted skirt and corporate shirt with a lovely orange necklace. To my right, my sweet friend sat in her beautiful purple camisole and a black blazer and this really wonderful trouser. Her boyfriend wore a starched shirt and a navy blue trouser…..OK wait I am sure you are wondering but it is important to note that we all wore shoes….Ok back to the matter at hand. We were sitting and staring at only God knows what, we had things to do but for some reason we were just sitting there when I broke the news, it was sad painful and we were sober. We never took deaths well, we had lost this friend of ours and it hurt.I wanted to cry but I couldn’t find the tears. We all missed him. We all wanted him there with us but reality dawned on us that we had lost him.

As we spoke, our friend was being buried but we couldn’t make it to the funeral and we really wanted to be part of it so we joined hands and my friend’s boyfriend suggested I speak on behalf of everyone and pay our last respect… words ‘Dear friend, life has been unfair to take you away from us. Every time you were present you found a way to make us efficient and do the right thing. You knew how to convince us in a contagious way. We loved having you around. We can’t get over you. I miss you personally. I pray your spirit comes back to dwell with us, your impact in our lives would forever be remembered. No one can take your place, our darling friend…………GINJA.

In case you don’t know….GINJA (this is a Nigerian slang) is the drive and motivation to do something…we lost it today and it ended up becoming our lazy day and had fun laying around… All work and no play makes jack a dull boy so…..we were being ‘not dull…anyway I heard he regenerates and resurrects because some of our friends have lost theirs but they got it back….#okbye



I have this strong urge to express what has been racing through my mind.
Over this holiday, we’ve lost a number of people and death keeps taking away people we love. Cleopatra (a girl I have never met but all the pictures of her that I have seen are beautiful and “wow”) just passed on. Apparently she related with people and touched the lives of many. Others have died too and it got me thinking,
If I die now what would be said about me?
What legacy have I left on earth?
How easily would I be forgotten and most importantly when I am judged where will I find myself?
Life is priceless. Make everyday count. Live every second like it is your last. Show love from your heart, avoid grudges, you can’t die with that unnecessary burden. Make your life count. Your youth is the best time to do all these. Please do not waste your life.
Take out one minute to reflect, think about your life and how you can improve, tell those you love how much you love them, forgive those that have wronged you Let go of all the grudges, hand all your burdens to God. With him your life is everlasting.

Life doesn’t end in death, only if you let it.
My heart bleeds for you cleo. #much love and R.I.P.
VALUE LIFE and make it count.