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So I was with a couple of friends in camp sitting outside and taking in the view. There’s really no view actually, just black muddy sand with grasses trying to overpower their existence to no avail and people in white shorts and shirts roaming about “otondos” as they are called (ok fine, I was one of the white and white people too, so let’s say…as we were called). Otondo means white fowl. It is what young corps members are called. A guy, my friend actually, Kelvin Aigbefo, stirred up a conversation by asking

“If you were asked to bathe naked during parade for 10 million naira, confirmed, would you?”

One guy replied

“10 million? Ahhhh I would bath and dance shoki sef because I’d be feeling like I’m cheating them. I’d do more sef. I’d bath 3 times.”

In his opinion, someone had just given him money tree to shake…lol.


More comments poured in, their eyes shone like they were already offered the money. When I said I couldn’t, people attacked me and said it was because I didn’t see the money. I was sure I couldn’t. I pictured how people would bring out their phones and record and take pictures, I pictured the look on my future husband’s face and those of my kids. I did a mental conversion of 10million to dollars, it actually wasn’t worth much. Then I asked myself, if you offered this to Dangote’s son, would he do it?

Then I said, the worth of money is actually relative. 10 million to me is not 10 million to you and it is not 10million to Goodluck Jonathan. If you can bath outside for 10 million then you have no right to judge the suicide bombers for collecting 50,000 to 100,000 naira to bomb a place because 50,000naira to him is like 10 million. A prostitute giving off her body for 20,000 naira is equivalent to your 10 million naira bants.

A lot of us are self centered. We think about just ourselves, our family and that’s all. Everything circles around us. We are eager to make money, whether it is a dishonorable or honorable way. We just want to make the money. There are many people making huge sum of money yet cannot be recognized on Forbes’s list. They can’t even invite them to share their money making strategy because they don’t have one. They just steal the money or get it via dubious means.

So after having your bath for 10million, if you’re invited for an interview what will you say? Would you be confident enough to go to schools and inspire kids on how to make money? Would you feel equal when you stand next to a man that works for his money or has a business that has yielded the same amount?

Once we can put our integrity before money, money will chase us. Work hard and smart for every penny you earn. It is the first step to corruption eradication. Avoid fast money syndrome. Don’t let money control you, control money. So I leave you with this question

Would you have your bath in a public place full of people for 10million naira?






Hi, I know you’ve missed me, well, I’m back and I hope nothing takes me away again. Today, we will be discussing the preceding posts on value orientation (if you have not read it, click VALUE ORIENTATION, (Read it now!!! else you will feel lost ). There are salient points in the story that I believe would be relevant to you and these points are important because they will support and strengthen you in your self development journey and the rate of improvement will alarm you.

The ten pillars are:

  1. Be eager to learn and engage in further research. Never feed on incomplete information or haphazard information. Get your facts right. Further and recent knowledge/information is priceless.
  2. Find S2: When you identify a problem, find the source and solution. Be a creative solution provider not a professional complaint director.
  3. Be well equipped before undertaking any task. It puts you far ahead. Not everyone has to start from scratch. With information you can start from the middle to the top.
  4. Never be in a hurry to make money. Nothing good comes easy. Be patient and work for every penny you earn directly or indirectly, be sure you deserve it. Fast money evaporates quickly. Build lasting empires and assets.
  5. Decisions are integral in defining and shaping your life and its eventual outcome. Never be in a hurry to make decisions. Take out time to ponder, weigh your options and come up with a decision even if it is a risk-taking decision.
  6. Never base your decisions on emotions. Emotions cloud judgments. Never make a decision under pressure (except you have to), stress, extreme excitement, depression, anger etc. because you will most likely make a bad decision.
  7. Set out an accurate plan, with clear goals and strategies on how to execute a task before undertaking the task.
  8. Ignorance is much more expensive than the price of education. If you do not know the value of a thing, the worth and potential of that thing will remain vague to you and might hinder your success or advancement. Knowledge of value guarantees advancement.
  9. Be aware of and familiar with the potential and treasures in your vicinity before embarking on an ultimate treasure search in a strange land. A goat at hand is better than a lion in the forest
  10. Never give up!!! Suicide is never a solution. Face your challenges. Don’t run away from them. People with the best success stories had terrible experiences and challenges that toughened them up and prepared them for the positions they are now. e.g Oprah Winfrey

If there are other lessons you learnt from the article, Value Orientation, kindly share by commenting. Add to someone’s life and inspire a friend today by sharing this post. If you haven’t read value orientation, click here. Have a nice weekend.