I’m female and I know it is ironic coming from me but before you go judgmental, let’s reason together. I see different women wake up each morning and adorn themselves with the title “feminist”. They fight countless battles. They fight against rape (forgetting boys are raped too), wife-beating, woman trafficking (there are men in this position too), education for the girl child, the victimization of women in general. I understand and I’m not against this. In the midst of these all, they fight for equal rights, the right to be placed on an equal level as the male species. This, I have a problem with.
I understand that women have been deprived for a longtime and swept under the carpet and because of the African tradition (this oppression is not only visible in Africa. It’s a global thing but I am African and I understand the oppression of the African woman), women have been seen as sex bags and child producing machines and mistreated or undervalued in so many ways but you do not need to raise banners and make public declarations about how you want to be on an equal level as a man, when you do, you stress your weakness as a woman. If you want to be respected, earn it. Rather than wage countless wars that would place you in a position where you win the wars and lose the battles, why not work for it. The true question here is, are women actually ready to be on an equal level with men? I ask this because, I still hear ladies swoon over how men are not gentlemen anymore. You want him to open the car door for you, pull the seat when you go out on a dates, lift the heavier load while you take the lighter one, assign the difficult task to him and do the simpler one, stand up from his seat and offer you the seat when there is none available. You think he is rude to sit while you’re standing, yet you demand equal rights.
If you actually want equal rights you should be prepared to walk on the same level with him. He should treat you how he treats his guys. If he punches you, rather than wail and scream you should be prepared to take the punch and equate his fist. If you are equal, then act it. Don’t expect extra favors. Every decision has its consequence. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in empowering the woman and educating her to see that she is strong and she has rights as a human being and can be anything she wants to be but if we are demanding equal rights we should also be prepared to be treated as equals and also earn the position as equals. Let’s just let the men be men and women be women. If you want to be president, BE PRESIDENT. Work for it and don’t even think gender for one minute. Don’t campaign and ask the masses to vote for you because you’re a woman. There is a reason why there are no “Menist”. The men are not threatened, they are confident in themselves as men. The women are just stressing their fear by accessorizing the fear with protests and words. Be confident in yourself as a woman and as a person. There is more to you than gender can encompass. Develop yourself into who you want to be and don’t let the society define you or your place.